Dapalam

Dapalam

“Dapalam’ the very word for me signifies more than just a dish,it’s an emotion. It was a dish that I have always eaten surrounded by the special people in my life .

Some of them are no longer around today. My Ammama (grandmother)  who made sure the Dapalam made at her home was sent by rotation to all of us at least once a year….my Pedda (mom’s older sister) who loved this dish so much that she would refrigerate it for days and enjoy it for lunch…I miss them both so much.

Another person who I think about constantly is the cook who (in my opinion) made the best Dapalam , Ramudu. With old age and ill health plaguing him,his family wanted him back home but I think he was far happier here at my Uncle’s home because he was so well looked after and cared for.  He always seemed like a happy cook…whenever I saw him !

As my interest in food grew and I would chat about recipes with my Ammamma ,she who knew very little about cooking would quickly call the dear man to answer my queries. My grandmother was the most surprised of all to see me want to get better acquainted with kitchen skills !!! She enjoyed eating different vegetarian fare but never really imbibed any cooking skills from her mother (my great gran), unlike her two sisters who are brilliant cooks.

So she always encouraged me to learn, especially from these cooks who were old school and could cook up the most delicious fare while being extremely modest about their talents. I wish I could talk to Ramudu now and thank him for how much he taught me just by patiently replying to my questions.

I did not write down the recipe but did have a piece of paper with a hurried scribble. While we did make this delicious dish several times in the past it was always with the thought that if it didn’t match up I could ask them to send some over the next time it was being made there. That very thought today seems nowhere as simple as it was back then…with Ramudu no longer here , Ammamma gone and of course the dreadful corona virus !

The recipe I share is of approximate measurements so do taste as you go along and add seasoning and flavouring as necessary to get that balance of sweet,sour,spicy and salty….the vegetables used predominantly are drumstick, sweet potato, yellow pumpkin and bottle gourd…just as Ramudu did.

How I long to sit at that table again; with my uncle at the head , aunts,cousins, mom all around and my grandmother seated to one side listening to the loud cacophony of our voices spoken in unison….while several rounds of the Dapalam flowed until it was time to stop and finish with the ada pradhaman.

As much as the tears threaten to spill over, I will myself to look back only with gratitude. I know that’s what Ammamma would have wanted.

My favourite accompaniment with the Dapalam is curd…and a little rice.

 

 

 

 

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